beautiful

The other day, I saw a self-conscious teen, and in an instant my heart pounded out a silent “I love you!” Maybe I saw myself and other friends in him, since I have certainly had acutely awkward phases in my life, and can even now, so easily, call up that feeling of perplexity at the social norm, along with a sense that the gulf between me and those who have it together is immeasurably big. The privilege of a slightly older age, though, is that you learn that being self-conscious is most easily combatted by turning your attention outward… and understanding that each person wrestles with his or her own insecurities. Life isn’t an easy gig. I love the oft-quoted Thomas Merton revelation, as he was standing on a street corner in Louisville. He was all of a sudden taken by the import and beauty of each and every person he saw, and exclaimed to himself,  “There is no way of telling people that they are all walking around shining like the sun!” It doesn’t happen as often as I’d like, this generous acceptance of all mankind, but it made me recall an experiment I posted a little while ago, when Asthmatic Kitty Records had a sidebar going (I was one of the art essayists):

I’ve been conducting an experiment. Inspired by the anonymous urban sprinklings of the “You Are Beautiful” collective, I’ve been trying out the phrase while in public. Looking at any stranger, I silently intone, “You are beautiful.” And a strange magic happens. The person, no matter how homely he or she may have seemed, becomes lovely. The uniqueness of face, of body, expression and style, rise to the surface, and the part of that person that may never believe such a thing about her-him-self actually becomes the most endearing part. I will admit that this magic does not work the same way with each person. Someone who is conventionally attractive might have a funny force field that ironically, initially bounces the phrase away, as if looking for a candidate in greater need. But with small persistence, that familiar I-am-ugly feeling can usually be caught right there under the surface, and rendered null for a moment by my incantation. The toughest customers are those whose hardness and bitterness ride the helm. The easiest are the unassuming, the average, the plain, the awkward.

Trying out the process with people I know well—friends, family, husband, sons—is also a different scenario, since I can say it with a deeper knowledge of who that person might be. Like shaking a jar of stones, beauty takes the top strata, and I say, with real conviction, “Yes, you ARE.”

Because most of us go through our days feeling anything but beautiful, such a simple encouragement has caught on with a fire that might only be rivaled by the Obey Giant phenomenon. See www.you-are-beautiful.com to view installations worldwide and read more about the project. And, hey: you are beautiful.

Shepard Fairey’s Obey Giant: http://obeygiant.com/

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from dark to dark

Some of the most profound work on earth happens when, somehow, the strengths of people speaking in different artistic languages come together. Opera, cinema, high church, books, happenings, ceremonies of all sorts… these all can yield a cross-pollinated glory that is greater than the sum of parts. When more of the senses, and sensibilities, are orchestrated into a production, we can be more fully immersed in an experience.

During National Poetry Month, Richard Hugo House is going for it. They’ve asked chefs, musicians, writers and artists to engage with poetry for a host of events and exhibitions through the month of April. The image above is a detail from a new piece I made to embody Wendell Berry’s poem “The Country of Marriage.” I got a peek at some of the other works when I dropped it off, and am really excited by the range and sensitivity of the work (most of which, if not all, was made for the exhibition).

(Tonight is the opening reception: 6-9pm, but the work will be up through April and lots more is going on through the month.)